Happy Birthday?

Hey thanks Diane for your birthday wishes – much appreciated – reading this page really made me smile – just what I needed.  I decided to go to work on my birthday and had a horrendous day.  I made a decision –  in future I will not be some kind of hero and go to work I will stay at home.  I decided to postpone my birthday and had it the following day instead – so yep I had a good day and an enjoyable birthday.   Roll on new year.

Lauretta

Happy Birthday Lauretta

Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.

- Maya Angelou –

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Why is it so easy for sex to come before dating now?

Sex before marriage was taboo, then it became acceptable, a thing most people accepted.  Now it seems the whole dating scene is going one step further forward and there is a rush to scratch a desired itch sex before dating even begins  – or at least on the first date.

Never mind the old fashioned ways of taking her out, picking her up, spending time getting to know each other. Now, it’s all about come round to mine, I’ll cook and then let’s have sex. In fact to save on money why not just do that most weekends!

In a world of sex before dating and a woman who refuses to sleep with unforbidden fruit until she has decided it is ripe and juicy enough for her to share herself with how does one ever manage?

I thought my problem might be trying to do this thing myself – you know – be actively out there looking. Isn’t that what people keep telling me… get out there, go to places, join things, be in online dating sites – all that kind of thing to find a man.

In the spirit of letting go and letting God today, right this second, I just deleted my online dating profiles and I am leaving this one in his Hands. I am going to let go of my desire to be with anyone and be happy with just me. And I am going to do that because I know to get power you have to let go of your need for power, to get riches you have to let go of your need to be rich. So to find a man that wants to  focus on ME – the woman behind the face, lips, tits and arse – who has a brain and is so much more – I am going to have to let go of wanting to be in a relationship.

In 2010 I am in God’s hands. My life will be about accepting whatever He brings to me. No fuss, no wanting something different. I will just work with what I have.

And if I ever post on here again about joining an online dating site please remind me of that fact!!!!

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What will it take to move diary of a black girl up a level?

For any blog to be success it takes a little bit of sweat and tears. Of course you are blogging about something you love (hopefully) so it won’t seem like work.

To pick up the diary so that it has an audience that is reading our stuff on a daily basis we need to blog 3 times a day, every day, for the next 12 months – no easy challenge; especially as I have 13 other blogs I already write in!

So Lauretta…. you ready or what? :)